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A Good Start For Tapping On Grief Part 3 – EFT for Sandy Hooks, Newtown, CT

Yes, I love reframing in EFT, but when we just start with someone who is going through unspeakable amounts of grief, it can feel intrusive to the client.

Where can one begin, when the grief is so overwhelming that there is no solution, to “positive outcome”?

When a family looses a child, it is hard to find meaning in a “higher purpose”.

Trying to see the good in the bad can be very premature and feel violent to the victim of such grief.

Making sense of the death of a child is simply impossible.

The last thing a trauma victim needs to hear is how someone else things she should feel.

 

I found that, after I spent time acknowledging and holding space, the best way to introduce EFT can be through the body.

It is impossible to feel deep grief and not have physical symptoms: Tightness, heaviness, pain, restrictions.

One mother that I helped, who had just lost her daughter to an illness, shared that she feels like there is “a hippo sitting on her chest.”

One of the beauties of EFT is that we can just tap on that, without analyzing and stirring up more overwhelming emotions:

We can ask how big the “hippo” is, which color, what it does, if there is a sound or expression that would be meaningful.

Then tap on what our client told us, without changing or interpreting the words.

Even though I have this huge, dark grey hippo the size of two football fields sitting on my chest, I acknowledge my grief and all my feelings without judgment.

Even though I have this huge, dark grey hippo, the size of two football fields sitting on my chest, I choose to take the time that I need to heal.

Even though I have this huge, dark grey hippo the size of two football fields sitting on my chest, and it doesn’t allow me to breathe, I choose to be respectful of all that I am going through. anybody in my situation would feel the way that I do.

Then just tap on “This dark grey hippo”.

So just begin to work on physical symptoms, and notice how they shift: Does the “hippo” change color or size? Does it change location, from the chest to to stomach, throat or some other place in the body? Does it change from a hippo to an elegant, dog,… . Anything that our client notices is important and relevant. We just observe and notice it, and then do another round of chasing the pain and tapping on the body.

Helping a person by tapping on the physical symptoms still releases the same energy blocks that are causing the thoughts and feelings. But it does it gently, appropriately, without the need for the client to tune into the pain even more.

And it gives the client much control over how she wants to share her feelings, and what she wants us to know, while still getting relief.

It is important to detach ourselves from a “positive outcome” that we expect a client to have when working un such deep levels. Being there for the person and offering support in a way that works for them is is a gift that will be most helpful.

 

 

Transform For Success: Make Your Story Matter

If you are in doubt about the meaning of your unique story, and how to make it matter for yourself and others, please watch this video.

Tap along with the tapping suggestions that are being offered to help you see the true meaning of your past, your story and your life.

Please leave feedback below!

Video – How to lose weight with EFT Tapping

Tap along and please leave a comment!

Good luck with your own goals! You can do it!

Free Tapping Script: EFT For Fear Of Facing The Truth

Are you afraid to face the truth? Facing the truth about a situation is not always easy.

It can be scary and overwhelming to look past wishful thinking and facing the reality of our life, the reality of a situation or a personal relationship.

On the other hand, releasing the fear of facing the truth is the first step to a successful life.

When we have the courage to just look at things the way they are, it becomes much easier for us to make good decisions.

Facing the truth gives us options to decide what we want to do, how we want to take charge and how we want to continue to live our life.

 

Take a heart and tap along!

 

First, I’d like to encourage you to chose a topic for your tapping. Pick something that you don’t want to look at.

Rate your fear of facing it on a scale of 0-10.

Where do you feel this in your body?

For the purpose of this tapping sequence, we will assume it is in your gut and throat. But it might be a different location for you.

Just acknowledge that it is there and make a mental note of how strong it is.

 

Then let the thoughts go and just focus on the tapping.

No need to get upset now!

 

KP: Even though I have this gut wrenching fear of facing the truth, I completely accept myself and my feelings

KP: Even though I just can’t get over this fear, I just don’t want to go there, I love and accept myself, and I choose courage when the time is right.

KP: Even though I feel so overwhelmed by this thought, I don’t want to have to look at it  what if it is not safe or I get hurt badly? – I choose to be more calm and relaxed anyway. Everything happens in devine and perfect order.

 

TH: I am overwhelmed.

IE: I am REALLY scared right now

OE: I really don’t want to have to face this

UE: I just don’t want to, it feels too uncomfortable, too scary to me

UN: I really don’t want to have to think about this

UL: I just don’t can’t go there, it doesn’t feel safe

CB: I have this unsettling feeling of overwhelm right now

UA: This fear that I just can’t go there

TH: I have this feeling in my gut that I don’t want to face this, I just can’t, and that’s the truth!

 

OK, well done 🙂 Take a breath and just relax for a moment.

This is not easy. I understand. Just breathe, and get ready for another tapping round

 

TH: What if I could allow myself to just relax a bit

IE: What if I could feel more in control, even if it’s hard

OE: Maybe I don’t have to be so overwhelmingly fearful

UE: Maybe I could just take a peek at what is truly going on

UN: I can choose to tap along until I feel better

UL: After all, what happens happens, whether I know about it or not

CB: But when I know what’s going on, I can make better decisions

UA: And I don’t have to feel so overwhelmed and out of control anymore.

TH: I choose to feel a bit better about myself and the control that I have, even if I have to face the truth about this.

 

Take a breath again. Do you feel a bit more optimistic? Do you notice a shift?

Nothing has happened yet. You are in control. Just take it one step at a time and as you tap along, you will find more and more opportunities to make decisions that help you move forward.

 

TH: What if I could be relaxed and just let it be easy?

IE: What if I was making at least a part of this problem up?

OE: My denying of the truth doesn’t change a thing

UE: It just makes me feel uncomfortable, it makes me feel scared

UN: I choose to release this daunting fear now

UL: And I choose to begin to explore what the truth is all about

CB: I choose to be very thorough with this and honest to myself

UA: After all, I know that there is more to it than just what I am afraid of.

TH: I am grateful that I am now beginning to see this differently.

 

Take another breath and check in with your body. How do you feel? What is coming up for you?

Any changes? Good – take a mental note.

 

Let’s do one last round on Gratitude:

 

TH: I am grateful that I am beginning to let go of this fear

IE: I am grateful that I didn’t give up, and take it one step at a time

OE: I am grateful that I have the courage to claim my power back from this daunting fear

UE: And to begin to see opportunities where I used to only see fear

UN: MAybe I can begin to see the truth in all of it’s facets

UL: The truth is not one dimensional – there are many things I can impact and change

CB: I am grateful for my courage to put this behind me

UA: And I feel confident now that I can handle this, one step at a time.

TH: And even though I was so afraid to face this, I am grateful for the opportunities I am beginning to see.

Thank you, I am grateful for my control and strength.

 

Breathe. And check in with your body. How do you feel?

What do you notice?

There is so much to facing and understanding the truth, and when you have the courage to see the whole picture and not just a part of it, you will also find your strength to make the right decisions and do what you have to do to let the truth be a good thing.

Please leave a comment below!

Thanks!

Love

Ingrid

Coaching for Coaches: Your business will grow when you take action!

Coaching for Coaches: Your business will grow when you take action!

In my experience as a business coach for coaches and healing professionals, I see my client’s success skyrocket as soon as they commit to taking action.

Working with a  coach is the first step – I don’t know a single, successful coach or EFTer who has a 5 or 6 figure monthly income, who does not have a mastermind and receive continuous, extensive coaching and training from a coach who has already achieved what she is dreaming of.

 

However, becoming successful requires more than getting input, feedback, support, inspiration and training.

It requires taking action upon what you learn!

A coach does NOT do the work for you.

A coach does not GIVE you clients.

A coach teaches and coaches you HOW to get clients.

But YOU have to do the work.

Working with a coach will make you busy.

You will be working more focused, more goal oriented.

You will know what your next steps are.

You will begin to implement what you have learned.

You will reach out I ways you never have before.

You will find and define your niche, your ideal clients, your programs and offerings.

Your business will unfold in front of you, as soon as YOU are ready to take action.

I know how challenging it is to take continuous action.

Therefore, I have created an EFT tapping script and audio for you that can help you get motivated and take focused and intentional action every day.

To download my EFT for taking action Tapping script and audio, please go to:

www.EFT4Takingaction.com


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