I just talked with Bob again: He made it! Due to your generosity and his courage to accept help when he needed it, a skill he had to work hard to achieve, he was able to relocate close to his daughters location, find an apartment with a great landlord and was offered a position in a nursing home close by.
Everything has changed for him, due to his courage to accept that sometimes we are on the giving end, sometimes we need to receive.
For Bob, this was a first. Bob is someone who would always help others with no hesitation, who is proud of his independence and resourcefulness and his ability to make it through even with little or no money. Bob is used to life not being easy, and is not afraid of dealing with the consequences of tough circumstances.
But this situation was different. He realized that he needed to tap on accepting help. And he struggled with that. This was probably one of the hardest things he ever had to do in his life. Accepting help was extremely difficult for him.
I think that most people struggle with this on occasion. I certainly have my share of resistance to accepting help, and have to tap on this rather frequently.
But I had to realize that giving and receiving must go together to create balance. We can’t just give without receiving. If we do, we create just as much imbalance as if we always took without giving. Giving and receiving must go together and both are important for a happy and successful life.
Bob is interested in hearing from you. If you would like to connect with him, please email me and I will give you his phone number.