Creating rapport with Veterans and their families is often a difficult task. If a veteran doesn’t trust us, he or she doesn’t care what we do, what support and help we have to offer.
For most Veterans, working with a non-military coach, even talking with a non-veteran is very difficult. In my experience, most Veterans only trust veterans, and only share what they have been through, with a hand selected number of people.
In my experience, creating rapport with Veterans and their families is easier, when a practitioner starts the conversation with the question: “What do you need to know about me?” I always take time to answer any personal and professional questions that a new client might have. I feel that when someone has the courage to step forward and ask for help, he or she has a right to know everything about the person that is offering support.
I also find it important to explain why helping Veterans is so dear to my heart. I share that my father was a WWII veteran and POW, and I grew up feeling that the war was always at the dinner table, the anger and trauma, even though well hidden, were always present.
I know that my father would have never reached out for help. It was expected of his generation to “just forget and move on”. What an impossible task!
I am so grateful that we can make such a difference in a Veteran’s life and the life of his or her family, and I am dedicated to spread the word.
Everybody practitioner has a different story to share, a different reason and motivation to do what he or she does. So it helps to do some soul searching and become clear on why we choose this path, so that it becomes easier for our veterans to trust and relate to us.
Once we are “checked out and found safe”, we can begin to tap, talk about why and how EFT is so effective, give demonstrations and start on the path of healing.